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Emotional Infidelity: It Can Cause Your World To Crash And Burn

November 20th, 2009 No comments

Do you find yourself in a confusing situation where either your or a cherished partner are have extended the proper bounds to your relationship? Or at least, you strongly suspect so? Has a flirtation perhaps gone a bit too far? How do you define a betrayal? If sex isn’t involved is it possible for anyone to really be betrayed. If you are asking these type of questions, you may be going through an emotional infidelity.

And, how, exactly, is emotional infidelity defined? It is simply when one partner in a committed union becomes emotionally drawn to someone outside the boundaries of that relationship. Sex is not a part of it, not currently anyway. But still, the new wandering creates a distance and a doubt between the committed partners. And, as that distanced grows so does the feeling of isolation, which can quickly lead to bitterness.

What makes it particularly painful is that the involved partner is guilt-free. There’s no sexual relationship, yet, to speak of, so what on earth could could possibly cause any shame? The shame is brewing, make no mistake, in a big pot of emotional infidelity. And no one knows when the pot will finally boil over.

If you believe your partner may be involved in an emotional infidelity, be on the lookout for how they spend their time. Do they spend a lot of time away from you, time you used to share? Do they guard their cell phone and time on the computer? Are they emotionally unavailable? Are they unresponsive when you ask about some personal details of their lives? Do they spend free time away from you?

Conversely, you may be one who unwittingly finds themselves in this sort of emotional mess. Do you share intimacies with another that you once reserved for your partner or spouse? Are you making secret times to rendezvous with another, either through a phone call, IM, email, or in perhaps even in person? Do you go to great lengths to keep these events a deep secret from your partner? Is there sexual intensity whenever you around the other person, even though neither of you have acted on it? If so, you could be in the middle of an emotional infidelity.

There are things that can be done to curb the affair. Stay away from social situations that you view as a danger to your current relationship. Stay away from communicating anything you wouldn’t be willing to have your partner see or hear. Avoid making special time for anyone put your intimate partner and family. Invite your spouse to be a part of your relationship with the new involvement.

If you suspect you have wandered into this situation unaware and would like to end it before it destroys something you hold dear, then do it. End it. Right now. Today. Communicate that fact in no uncertain terms, with the smallest opportunity for wiggle room. When the dust as settled, then go about the task of trying to find out what happened and what means to you and your partner or spouse. Nothing is set in stone. Even an emotional infidelity can come to an end.

Visit Stan’s site at Steps to Surviving Infidelity to get more great tips on what to do about emotional infidelity.

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Ways To Get A Guy Interested In You By Observing 3 Types Of Guys And His Interest!

November 20th, 2009 No comments

There are quite a number of ways to get a guy interested in you and it all depends on the type of guy and his interests. It is best to spend some time observing that guy and knowing more about his habits before you try to get him interested in you.

It may sound tough and you might be afraid that by the time you have finished observing him and his habits he might have well fallen in love with another woman. For an intelligent woman, it should not take more than a few days observation to size down a guy and one you have done this you can plan on your approach in making him interested in you.

Below are the types of guys and his interest that you should know:

1. Smart & Suave Guys

These are the types of guys who make fashion a statement. Their clothes speak a lot about their attitude. They have well set hair and some of them look as if they have just attended a fashion show. These types of men love their women to be smart and suave too. If your guy is of this type, it’s high time that you started getting a bit fashionable yourself. For girls it is not so tough.

Just applying some makeup, setting your hair in the proper style and wearing clothes that are in fashion are generally more than enough to get such guys interested in you. It helps a lot if you are smart and know how to carry yourself. Though it might take some time to get such guys interested in you, once they are interested, they will never leave you. You should always keep yourself updated with the latest fashions and flaunt them.

2. Romantic Guys

These types of guys do not bother to make their fashion a statement. They have dreamy eyes, have a passion for music and nature and also are likely to fall in love with a girl who is simple & homely. Before you try to approach these types of guys be sure that you have taken proper care to apply soft makeup on your face and eyelids.

Talk with him about the latest romantic novels and state your love about romantic movies too. Go ahead and purchase tickets to the latest romantic movie and take him along. Chances are that he might reciprocate by inviting you to a candle light dinner. These guys are sentimental and will not betray a true love.

3. Eyes for you only guys

You can easily make out these types of guys because their gaze keeps on flitting from one girl to another. These are the worst type of guys and it is not recommended that one tries to make them interested in themselves.

These people are more interested in your body and the day they are tired of you; they will start hunting for another dame. A hug and a kiss and a naughty dress are more than enough to get such guys attracted. These guys also prefer girls that are brave so just go ahead and propose to him.

So, If you want to discover how to attract a man that you’ve always wanted, what the secret to a man staying committed for the long-run is, and how to get your relationship back on track. Then you need to go to http://www.freewebs.com/catchandkeephim to Learn MORE about the SECRETS PSYCHOLOGY TO GETTING “Mr. RIGHT” and keeping him hooked for good – And you don’t need to be gorgeous or young to do it! Just visit Catch and Keep Him ! .

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How To Flirt Effectively Using Boring Questions

November 20th, 2009 No comments

I’m sure you’ve heard that you should avoid “ordinary boring conversational topics” when flirting. Experts will tell you that it’s a sure way to make the girl yawn. And that’s no way to get her to remember you after you leave.

I disagree. I think it’s weird if you don’t mix some “ordinary” questions in when you’re getting to know a girl. Sure, you need to have high energy, and hit some emotional high points. But you also need some ordinary “getting to know you” talk.

What are the “ordinary” questions we’re talking about?

What’s your occupation?

What’s your major?

How old are your children?

Where did you grow up?

Can those questions lead to a dead conversation? Yes. Do they have to? No.

Here’s the key principle:

TYPICAL QUESTION FLIRTING FORMULA: after she responds to your “typical question”, be ready to be PLAYFUL with her answer.

I often query a girl about her schooling or work upon first meeting her.

Then I get creative with her reply.

Like this:

If she says she’s a massage therapist, I say, “Oh good, so if I suddenly get the worst cramp ever in my hand, you’d totally be able to heal me, right?”

This will ordinarily elicit laughter and a playful spirit from her. She also gets the feeling that you like her for something other than her cuteness, and that you think she could contribute to the social group in some way.

It’s fun, it’s fresh, and you can use it all the time.

Try it. The next time you’re talking with an attractive woman you’ve just met, give it a shot. And don’t restrict yourself just to women you’re attracted to.

I even use it with little old ladies. “My goodness, I can tell, if you were my Grandma, you would totally bake me cookies every day, even though my mommy told you not to.” They all love it!

Tyler Paxon Ph.D. is the founder of the How To Flirt website. Take his free quiz at http://how2flirt.com