The fastest way to get results with anything is to first find out what not to do and stop doing it.
This is no different with picking up girls. More often than not it is what guys are doing wrong far more than what they are not doing right that is making it difficult for them to become successful with women.
Bad pick up lines are one of the biggest reasons why guys don’t have success with women. The pick up line is the way you first get talking with a girl. Its purpose is to break the ice between you (or in pick up artist terminology ‘open her up to conversation’), so that you can start getting to know each other and hopefully escalate to sex and/ or a relationship.
If you don’t get the pick up line right, you don’t even get a chance to show your true colors. Never mind getting to all the good stuff afterwards. So it is the obvious place to start looking for problems first.
Do you know if your pick up lines are likely to bring you success?
Unfortunately, 98% of pick up lines you hear from friends or get from the internet won’t give you the effect you had hoped for.
It’s wrong, even though it’s widely used. I have no idea why this phenomenon has taken place, I just put it down to the fact that most men and women actually know a lot less about meeting each other than they like to think.
Think about it? How much does a magazine writer know about picking up girls? Unfortunately they are often the ones given the job of coming up with some ‘pick up lines’ for the latest copy of FHM or Maxim or whatever.
Don’t expect expertise from someone who is not an expert in the field. The result is that you are more than likely using bad pick up lines.
You need to learn a different way of doing things.
How to Recognise Bad Pick Up Lines
You’ll find it is very easy to identify a bad pick up line using these guidelines.
There is different kinds of damage inflicted when each of these three commonly used bad pick up lines are used. These are rude pick up lines, dirty pick up lines and cheesy pick up lines.
Rude pick up lines are the most damaging so we’ll start there.
Rude Pick Up Lines
Rude pick up lines contain some or all of the following elements: put downs, disrespect or demeaning name calling.
There is little to no humor involved, and often it accuses the girl of wanting to get sexual with the guy straight away. They are blunt.
When a guy feels that he is inferior to a woman and he subconsciously thinks that will be rejected to her he may resort to obnoxious chat up lines. By using a rude pick up line he is essentially building a shield around him that prevents him from getting rejected by the girl. He can say it was because he used the line that she wouldn’t talk to him.
This way of acting is known as ‘avoidance’ in psychological terms. A strategy to prevent getting hurt that is sometimes used is making the first move rude pickup lines. Whilst using these lines will never let the guy get rejected, and thus hurt, it will never get him what he wants. To actually talk to the girl.
An example of a rude pick up line:
“Get your rat out baby. I know you are dying for it.”
Dirty Pick Up Lines
Your next worst option is dirty pick up lines. The world wide web boasts an abundance of these. You may have come across them in the past. I am so sure that you have read a dirty pickup line on a website. After all, they are abundantly available on the net.
Dirty pick up lines imply by their sexual innuendos that the girl will proceed to the physical level with you right away. Thus why they are called ‘dirty’.
Watch out. Normally, these sentences contain a funny or witty edge. Often this is a play on words. This makes them more dangerous to guys with less experience at pick up.
Whilst many guys can tell that a rude pick up line isn’t that good, they can get tricked by the humor in a dirty pick up line into thinking it may be good.Dirty pick up lines may seem like the way to go for you, but most girls find them to be far too aggressive and using these lines will probably make them very uncomfortable.
There is a rule to be learned here: Girls don’t like to talk about sex immediately. They like things to be smooth and to happen naturally.
Talking about or bringing up the subject of sex right away (with a dirty pick up line) just gets her on the defensive and thinking of you as a ‘horny dog’. In some cases and contexts she’ll also get angry and attack you for being disrespectful.
This can potentially be even more embarrassing for you if other people notice or she makes a scene. If you are lucky and she’s quite an open thinker she’ll think it is an amusing line and not be angry, but that you are still a ‘horny dog’ to be careful around.
An example of a dirty pick up line:
“The word of the day is ‘legs.’ Let’s go back to my place and spread the word.”
Cheesy Pick Up Lines
The other type of bad pick up lines is cheesy pick up lines. They are less likely to get the girl angry at you, but don’t help you to get nearer to the objective.
Cheesy pick up lines mostly involve sickeningly sweet or romantic, or childish plays on words. These lines are bad simply because the girl will wonder why you didn’t have anything better to say. And in all likelihood she will be amused at how bad your pick up line was.
This can keep her in a good mood, but does not help you to appear attractive to the girl. As a result it backfires. She will not be interested in talking to you and will just turn her back on you after a quick laugh at your expense. She’ll make an excuse within 5 minutes to leave in 90% of cases. Especially if she is an attractive girl.
An example of a cheesy pick up line:
“Life without you would be like a broken pencil…pointless.”
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